14 signs that show you are chasing people away from your life [Must Read]

People come and go from our lives. It’s a natural part of getting older and it happens to everyone. But there’s a difference between people naturally going their separate ways and you pushing people away. So is that what you’re really doing?

Look around you. Who’s still in your life and why? It’s important to remember who was in your life a year ago and if they’re still there. Now, what about 2 years ago? When you see people disappearing around you and can’t figure out why, you could be pushing them away.

Humans are pack animals, technically. We love and need human companionship to feel happy and whole. It’s not that we can’t figure out life without anyone, it’s that we just don’t want to and often become super unhappy if we do.

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That’s why keeping good friends and family around is really important. You want to have good people surrounding you to lift you up and help you through the hard times. You also just want good company to enjoy life with.Knowing the signs you’re pushing people away can help you fix the problem

If you never know if it’s your fault that people don’t stay around, you’re not likely to ever fix the issue. That’s why you have to be aware of all the signs so you can learn to correct your own behavior. Here’s how to know that you’re the issue, not them.

1. You get into arguments with people over small things

Basically, you’re really sensitive. And that’s more of a personality flaw than a trait because certain things shouldn’t be a big deal in life. The more you argue with people over trivial drama, the more you’ll push them away.

2. You never really apologize for your misdoings

Everyone messes up. We all make mistakes or false judgments and can be very wrong about a lot of things. If you don’t own up to those things and just apologize, you’re going to push people away. Nobody wants to be friends with someone like that. #3 You complain a lot. Firstly, this is really annoying to people trying to find positivity in life and in their surroundings. You’re dragging them down and turning the mood sour. Would you really want to be around someone who ruins all good things with complaints? Probably not.

3. You have very low self-esteem and let others know

This is like complaining, except you’re only complaining about yourself. People get annoyed by this. When you always have to remind people they’re not crappy or ugly, resentment forms. So you’re actually pushing people away by doing this all the time.

4. You’re very negative

Once again, nobody wants to be around a Debbie Downer all the time. It’s irritating and it ruins all the fun. If you’re constantly pointing out faults and flaws with everything you do together, your friends will stop inviting you.

5. You only talk about your own problems

Everything is always about you and your own issues. While it’s perfectly fine to vent to friends, it’s not okay to do it every time you’re together and then not listen when they need help.

That pushes them away and makes them feel like you only use them. Plus, they’ll only form negative associations with you this way and that alone will push them away.

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6. You’re not there for anyone

So you expect everyone to come running when you’re upset but you hardly reply when your friends are having a hard time. Firstly, this is kind of selfish and secondly, it’ll push people away because friendship isn’t a one-way street. If you make it one, don’t be surprised when you end up alone.

7. If something doesn’t go your way you get upset

This is a huge issue with being spoiled and not being able to accept that things aren’t always in your control. Think about when your friends decided on something that you didn’t agree with. If you freaked out and do that often, you’re pushing people away.

8. You never initiate hangouts or conversation

It’s always their job. And when they don’t, you may even get a little passive aggressive. Telling them something like, “Finally you ask to hang out! It’s been forever.” But the thing is, your friendship works both ways.

9.  Trash talking others

This could even be the other people in your friend group. But overall, if you trash talk people regularly and that’s really all you do, you’ll push people away. They’ll begin thinking you also talk crap about them and nobody wants that.

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