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7 ways to cheat on your partner without sexual intercourse [Must Read]

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July 3, 2022

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And the top culprits are what you would expect: A majority of women say that having regular sex with someone else, a one-night stand, kissing another person, and sexting always count as Cheating.

But then the grey area between friendship and infidelity start to get hazy. In fact, women in the survey pinned down seven more (yes, seven!) relationship deal breakers. Think you’re being completely faithful? Read on to find out.

1. Maintaining An Active Online Dating Profile

Why it counts: Even if you’re not consistently having sex with someone on the side, maintaining an online dating profile hints at the fact that you want to—at least, 70 percent of women seem to think so.

“Maintaining an online dating profile falls into the emotional infidelity pot. It’s saying that you don’t feel confident enough in your primary relationship to share all of it with your mate,” explains relationship and family therapist, Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D. “In short, you feel you need to hedge your bets and keep your options open. Not only is it greedy, but it’s also insulting to your primary relationship.”

Your move: RIP to your Tinder profile. If you’re serious about your partner, this means you should delete it completely. If you’re hesitant to do so, you should reassess whether or not you’re ready to settle down with one person, says Hokemeyer.

2. Being Emotionally Involved With Someone Else

Why it counts: 61 percent of women agree that you don’t need to be physically intimate with someone to care about them inappropriately.

Do you think about another woman constantly? Call and text her when your wife isn’t around? Think about what your life would be like if you were with her? Rely on her for emotional comfort when you’re angry or stressed? You may be having an emotional affair, says Hokemeyer.

Naturally, you should have a variety of friends to go to for emotional support, he explains. But when your wife or girlfriend stops being your confidant, that’s a sign that you may not be with the right person.

Your move: If you find that you’re withholding feelings from your partner for fear of being criticized or judged, it may be a sign that it’s time to part ways, especially if there’s someone else in the picture that does give you the sense of comfort you’re looking for, says Hokemeyer.

3. Sending Flirty Texts

Why it counts: Just under 60 percent of women say your flirtatious messages are a major red flag. That’s because even though it’s not full on sexting, flirty messages can be a slippery slope, says Hokemeyer.

“Instead of being based on our primal sexual needs, [flirty texts] are based on our need to be seen, heard and desired,” he says.

If what you pass off as “fun” and “innocent” violates boundaries you and your partner have agreed on (whether they’re implied or you’ve discussed them), then you’re crossing a line.

Your move: If she’s uncomfortable with messages you’ve sent to other women, and your relationship means a lot to you, cut it out.

4. Going Out To Dinner With Someone You’re Attracted To

Why it counts: More than 40 percent of women say that wining and dining with another woman you’re attracted to signals infidelity.

But this is where things tend to get a little tricky. There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to someone else. The human brain is wired to seek out potential mates, says Hokemeyer, so you need to be honest with yourself.

“Are you going out with them to get laid, or simply to enjoy their company?” says Hokemeyer. “Women consider these types of dinners Cheat!ng because they are risky. There’s a real risk they will turn into something more.”

Your move: Having dinner with another woman will probably make her feel insecure about your relationship, especially if you try hiding it from her. Put yourself in her shoes: Why invest your time and money in another woman when you have her?

“Before you fill your ego up by having the dinner, consider the costs to hers,” says Hokemeyer.

5. Going Out To A Strip Club With The Guys

Why it counts: Would you be comfortable with your girlfriend busting out dollar bills to surround herself with hot men flopping their junk in her face? There’s a reason nearly 30 percent of women are turned off by strip clubs.

If you’re comfortable enough planting your face in someone else’s B00bs, she’s probably going to assume that you have no problem with crossing those boundaries outside of the club, too, says Hokemeyer.

Your move: Don’t want to miss out on your best friend’s bachelor party? Save yourself the heated argument and just ask her if it’s okay first, suggests Hokemeyer.

“Give her an opportunity to have a voice in the matter,” he says.

So even if she’s okay with it, establish some ground rules. That way, you’re fully aware of what she is and isn’t comfortable with when you’re out with the guys.

6. Watching P0rn Without Her

Why it counts: Before you freak out, only 22 percent of women consider watching P0rn without her Cheat!ng. And most of the time, P0rn is actually pretty harmless. In fact, your partner should respect your individuality when it comes to sexuality, says Greer.

But it may start to affect your relationship if it becomes excessive, says Hokemeyer.

Why? P0rn can take you out of your primary relationship and into a fantasy world you don’t really want to leave, he explains. If watching X-rated videos gets you off more than your partner does, then that’s a problem.

Your move: Her annoyance with P0rn is rooted in her ego, says Hokemeyer. If she catches you watching it without her, she might feel as though she doesn’t satisfy you on her own, so it’s your job to assure her that she does.

Then, offer to watch it with her, suggests Hokemeyer. Research even suggests that couples who watch X-rated videos together are more sexually satisfied than those who don’t.

7. Following Your Ex On Social Media

Why it counts: About 20 percent of women consider your online “friendship” with an ex as Cheat!ng. But to be fair, it should only count to a certain degree, explains Hokemeyer.

Do you constantly check up on what your ex doing? Do you get jealous when you see photos of her with other guys on Facebook? Do you get angry when you see her doing something fun? Then you probably haven’t moved on, which is a sign that you’re not ready to fully commit to your current partner, he says.

Your move: If you do find yourself checking up on your ex, it’s time to hit that “unfriend” button and move on, especially if you want to make things work with someone new, says Hokemeyer. But if you genuinely just appreciate your ex as a person and friend, and feel that you’ve completely let go and would like to maintain a positive relationship with her, then you should be able to do so, he says.

“Women feel uncomfortable with you being online friends with an ex because they feel threatened by them,” says Hokemeyer. “For some reason, they are insecure in the relationship.”

So before you take any action to unfriend or unfollow, spend some time figuring out what it is that’s actually making her feel insecure—then take action accordingly.